Posts in RE:pairing
on supporting queer friends and family… leaning into inconvenience

i’ve been thinking a lot about how i see people respond to friends and family who are making the shift from default binary gender labels, language and expression to less “easily-defined” ones. i have several friends and family members who are on this journey, and it’s not necessarily easy to shift out of a really sticky, cement-like binary paradigm.

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getting that we matter

fifteen years ago i was guided to write a book called “Get That You Matter.” the short version of the story is that i spent almost ten years working on it. then i got the message to burn it (the paper copies, that is… i did save one version on a hard drive- just in case). the logo i had designed for it was a ripple. you know, like how a rock makes ripples in water?

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